The mechanism of denial is strong when we are living our lives with the desire to fit in and seek approval. A life of compromise takes a lot of effort. Miguel and his wife Mariela are expecting a child any day. Miguel also has a male lover, Santiago, whom Miguel is keeping a secret from everyone in his life. The denial and fear Miguel tolerates seem acceptable and necessary to him, in order to keep everyone happy. Hiding is an egoic tactic to maintain guilt and separation in the mind, and is not a recipe for happiness.
It is not our darkness of which we are afraid, we really fear that we will be loved for who we truly are, sinless and innocent. There is a gentle invitation to "come out of the closet" with the love that we naturally are, and stop the hiding; for only then shall we truly rest in peace.