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Question:
You say that there is nothing to forgive, and that seems like a nice idea. Yet there are situations that happen and I go back over them in my mind and feel there really is something to forgive. How do I release them?
Answer:
In every conceivable situation, the Holy Spirit sees the whole picture. The Holy Spirit does not break apart the scene into those who have been mistreated and those who have acted in harmful ways. These memories that arise are coming from the belief that it is possible to be hurt by something other than your own mind and thoughts, something outside you. It does not matter whether the harm seemed to be physical or just a glance or a look. When these memories come, it is important to see that they are thoughts, attack thoughts. They are not our real thoughts. When you can see these thoughts as attack thoughts, you have the power to hand them over to the Holy Spirit. When they do not seem to be thoughts, and you believe that there are people who have actually done these things by their own choice, forgiveness would be impossible. You cannot forgive something that seems to be outside of your own mind.
So first the Holy Spirit has to train you that everything is thought, that all illness is mental illness, that all grievances are mental grievances. You cannot release something to the Holy Spirit until you see that it is your own thought and your own misperception. This is a big turnaround, because the mind is so identified with the body. It seems that this body makes many mistakes, and it seems like other bodies make many mistakes. Looking through the ego's lens is really the only mistake, and as you give up all attack thoughts, you clear away the lens that you were looking through. You are then able to look upon the world with the Holy Spirit.
Question:
How can we overcome the ego that does not allow us to live freely?
Answer:
The most important thing in overcoming the ego is to first realize that it is a belief. It was made by believing in it, and it is dispelled by withdrawing your belief from it. The ego wants you to believe that the enemy is outside of you. It wants you to point the finger and blame others, while it stays hidden in the bottom of your mind. When you feel upset, you always have a choice of what to do. You can blame the body that seems to be yourself, and oftentimes physical sickness seems to result, or you can blame other bodies around you, in which case there is much screaming and shouting.
Or you can follow the Holy Spirit's guidance and see that this is just the ego within yourself that is coming to the surface, just a train of thought that is passing through, and this is your opportunity to let it go. The ego does not like to be questioned. It wants you to assume that that's just the way things are. The ego is like one big assumption that you are vulnerable and can be attacked. As you question this belief system, you learn to live by the thoughts of God. You get intimacy by listening to the Holy Spirit instead of looking for it in bodies coming together. You learn to rely on Divine Providence rather than the laws of economics. You receive your freedom of mind from miracles instead of money and mobility of the body. You receive your peace of mind from Jesus instead of looking for peaceful environments. In miracles you are happy for no earthly reason. You are not happy because of outcomes and circumstances such as getting a promotion or from receiving a compliment. There is inner strength that comes from following your heart, and you bring this light with you wherever you seem to go. So it is entirely an inner job, and as your mind changes, so does the world you see.
Love,
David