The self-concept is made up of lies. It manipulates constantly to maintain its shaky self-image. It is a cover over the deep fear that what is underneath is unlovable. The call for self-honesty is also very deep, and the exposing of the lie can seem extreme and traumatic. It is like facing the threat of death, and it isn’t over until all of the darkness is raised to the light for release. Coming clean makes space for who we truly are to begin to emerge. Rather than being rejected for exposing the ego, love rushes in immediately, and the opportunity for a real relationship finally becomes possible.