The essential elements of holy relationship are forgiveness, direct communication, and the release of roles and expectations. Donald and Isabelle meet when Isabelle joins Donald’s Asperger’s Syndrome support group. Due to their “condition,” they find it very difficult to people please, hold back private thoughts, or to analyze the motives of others and then adjust their own behavior accordingly. They desire consistency and order, and find the world chaotic and unpredictable. They are often unable to hide their fear or their coping mechanisms behind layers of complicated defenses. In terms of spiritual development, this is advancement! But even with the ability to speak freely and not hide feelings, holy relationship is only possible when the desire to fit into the world is released.