How to End All Control
You are not responsible for the error but you are responsible for accepting the correction for the error.
The illusion that you have any control over your actions lies at the core of your belief and desire for autonomy/separation from God. Feelings like, 'I have control issues,' or, 'you have control issues,' are really expressions of the one mistaken belief in separation, the illusion of control. Relief from suffering comes from an acceptance that the illusion of voluntary control was not created by God and is therefore impossible.
“You are not responsible for the error but you are responsible for accepting the correction for the error. So, in the end, while the mind is split, you are taking it from a sense of, 'well, if I have a grievance then I am responsible for the grievance. If I am happy then I am responsible for the happiness.' And Jesus says, “Good! Now, I want you to take your mind one step higher. I want you to see that you can only accept responsibility for the love and the light and the healing.” Why? Because the split mind is still a metaphor; it’s spoken as if the mind has two parts: the right mind and the wrong mind.”